Monday, December 5, 2016

west 35 eco mountain resort

whoever said that cebu's mountain has gone bald was seriously mistaken! atop the mountain of balamban sits the west 35 eco mountain resort that i heard so much about and had inquired once with regards to venues for my wedding. yay! i am finally here. and it was a foggy, rainy and cold 2 days i spent with other members of field partners of compassion international. the good view and temperature was a welcome change from the usually humid and claustrophobic feel of the city.

we have to walked at least 300 steps to get to the room where we were assigned. it was called a "barkada room". it was spacious and has its own balcony, two toilets and to baths. it also has a bonfire pit outside with benches and chairs surrounding it. the staff provides you with materials for the fire if it is your desire to share aswang stories or chika late into the night. with the temperature on the resort, the fire would be a welcome comfort into the cold night.

one of the many things i like in west 35 is their open sided cr! 

my husband was laughing at me because he thought i am dress so poorly for the cold

lovely view of from inside their front desk!

the haven cafe. west 35's restaurant.

i definitely wants to go back during this time of the year next time. i would probably go for a room that has its own outside tub. imagine soaking on a warm soapy and scented water while you are enveloped in a fog with cool breeze and the lush green moutains as your view. an absolute must try!

what a sight to see when you wake up at 6 am!

*photo from fb of ate lin

all photos taken using my iphone 5s! forgive their graininess. 

Sunday, November 20, 2016

character ethics vs. personality ethics

i am reading again the 7 habits of highly effective people! and writing this is my own way of processing.

"In stark contrast, almost all the literature in the first 150 years or so focused on what could be called the character ethic as the foundation of success -- things like integrity, humility, fidelity, temperance, courage, justice, patience, industry, simplicity, modesty, and the Golden Rule. Benjamin Franklin's autobiography is representative of that literature. It is, basically, the story of one man's effort to integrate certain principles and habits deep within his nature.
The character ethic taught that there are basic principles of effective living, and that people can only experience true success and enduring happiness as they learn and integrate these principles into their basic character.
But shortly after World War I the basic view of success shifted from the character ethic to what we might call the personality ethic. Success became more a function of personality, of public image, of attitudes and behaviors, skills and techniques, that lubricate the processes of human interaction. This personality ethic essentially took two paths: one was human and public relations techniques, and the other was positive mental attitude (PMA). Some of this philosophy was expressed in inspiring and sometimes valid maxims such as “Your attitude determines your altitude,” “Smiling wins more friends than frowning,” and "Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe it can achieve.
Other parts of the personality approach were clearly manipulative, even deceptive, encouraging people to use techniques to get other people to like them, or to fake interest in the hobbies of others to get out of them what they wanted, or to use the “power look,” or to intimidate their way through life.
Some of this literature acknowledged character as an ingredient of success, but tended to compartmentalize it rather than recognize it as foundational and catalytic. Reference to the character ethic became mostly lip service; the basic thrust was quick-fix influence techniques, power strategies, communication skills, and positive attitudes".

this is a very good observation on what is going around us. though the character ethic is more like the fruit of the spirit. 
and to truly succeed and be happy it is very important to know that you have purpose in the first place and the right principles and habits that would be your guiding light to reach that purpose.
i would agree that much of the things that is popular these days are all about personality ethics, which is not good by the way, but is still absolutely necessary. take for example myself. i think i am developing my character ethics, thank be to God and his grace, but i am a loser when it comes to dealing with people. i have difficulty translating what i mean to the people i am around. and so i need to develop my personality ethics; leaping a thousand times more because as a leader i need to. how can i as a leader encourage and empower those around me when i myself could not communicate to them what it is that i truly want? 

like mr. covey said in the previous paragraphs, we do trust people who we know have a good character to show for it. even if they are not skilled, they are not talented or they are not with pleasing personality

self-awareness is a tricky thing. usually because we only want to see what we want to see in ourselves sometimes. but i have learned that my ability to interact and communicate and be a "people person" is an acquired trait. and i do hope that people who are in my circle of influence will trust me, not because i have an amazing personality but because they see my character.

to conclude my own way of processing this observation by mr. covey:

i believe that true success depends in knowing your purpose and goals and doing all the right things, choosing your decisions base on the principles that you believe will give God the most glory. 

after all, he is my reason for living.

personality ethics : human and public relations techniques and positive mental attitude are also necessary but in itself inadequate to affect lasting happiness and true success.

not related to the article whatsoever. i just think it is pretty :-)

Saturday, November 19, 2016

on obedience

"Loving wrongly means having the feeling of desire or attachment, or having an understanding of the greatness of God, yet not living according to His commands, not loving Him the way He commands us to. To love God, to truly love God, is to want to please Him, and that is called obedience. Is is very proud of me to say, “I’ll love God in my own way” as if I knew better than Him how to love Him, as if my style of loving is superior that I no longer need to learn how to love as He commands".

david bonifacio

brique modern kitchen, ayala cebu

i love the furnitures and the overall ambiance of this little restaurant on top of the new wing of ayala mall. the price of the food isn't so bad and they serve delicious recipes.

Sunday, October 23, 2016

road trippin'

there is always something so majestic about being on top of a mountain and looking out to a great expanse of greens and sky and sea. 

the great minds in mcof combined powers and decided that we should do our annual retreat in negros occidental. i immediately opposed the idea for two reasons:

first, i am from negros occidental!  if we are going on a tour it should be on a place i've never been (selfish self is of course subtle. saying things like, "we cannot travel typhoon is coming!)
second, i am still recovering from a mini pneumonia and still feel weak even though i already have missed work for more than 5 days.
i was thinking, maybe a nice resort around the island would be good or a quick over night stay in some place outside the city. no chance.

we left for bacolod city at 1 am. some of us did not sleep at all. we did all the crazy stop over stuff on top of don salvador mountains and take crazy amount of photos and then went directly to campuestohan highland resort. we headed down to civilizations again and rest for an hour, then eat dinner in diotay's place and head to a carnival area in the city and stayed there until 11 pm.  i was already a walking dead. i was swaying as we find our way to the car. 

when my body hit the bed, i was out but when i opened my eyes it was morning already! not fair!
when all my complaints is done, i would say that we had a really super good time together. relationships deepen, laughter comes easily, conversations are abundant to the point where someone has to do referee duties for everyone to have their time to express opinions, ideas or just 

a windmill. a prominent stracture in campuestohan higland resort

pretty girlfriends

hand holding walks

paddle time on a small lagoon. 

spring water meeting with salty huge one

spotting a cacao fruit after many many years.

the amazing view of cebu city from a million miles away.